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Auntie in 2016
The push is on to make 2026 the new 2016. Just in case you were wondering what yr Auntie over here was doing in 2016, I was working a “cool media job” in a midsized Midwestern US city known both for for its microbrewery, and arts culture. After work was small venue concerts, and art museum exhibition openings, and penthouse keggers with the city’s intelligentsia. I was the Queen of the Hipsters, you guys. I lived the whole scene life. 2016 was also the year I was formally dia
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On black cat familiars sitting on their witches’ altars.
Bob: “Imma put my asshole on your antakarana, mom. Gonna make it real hole-y. Get it??”
3 days ago1 min read


“How can I amplify your voice?”
Do you really want to help your disabled friend, your Hispanic friend, your otherwise BIPOC friend, your Palestinian friend, your Jewish friend, your neurodivergent friend, your queer friend, your unhoused friend… That’s the question. That is what you ask them. And it’ll usually be something like sharing their mutual aid requests. I have never once had a successful online fundraiser, because I share the link everywhere I can possibly promote it, and then it dies. No shares me
4 days ago2 min read


Escape from Mall World?
If you're interested in learning more about this dream phenomenon, check out Reddit's r/TheMallWorld You may or may not be the kind of highly online person who knows about the phenomenon of what's being called "Mall World," what seems to be a shared dreamspace for thousands of thousands of people where the dreams themselves are not recurring at all, but occur in the same dream places (a mall is a prominent feature, but so are a few schools, an airport, a fancy hotel, a hospit
5 days ago4 min read


Let's talk "self care."
One of my favorite topics! TW: Corporate capitalism, influencer culture, medical surgery, plastic surgery, hygiene, survival living. Especially since it's been so twisted by corporate capitalism and influencer culture lately. I'm looking at you, TikTok. For instance, I just did a huge act of self care by consenting to a painful major surgery. And it wasn't a BBL just for the lewk, I'm really hoping my right leg sciatica that I've been getting steroid injections for for the pa
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Jan 30 min read


To my fellow "genetically fat" folks:
TW: weight loss, weight gain, fatphobia, medical neglect, medical advocacy. If you were overweight as a kid, and it just kinda got worse the older you got, and then you spent your adult life fluctuating between gaining and losing the same 20-30 pounds that didn't quite get you to the 60-100lbs you need to lose... Check your hormone balance. Get tested for food allergies. Get treated for "dopamine eating" if needed, whether you go the medication or therapy or surgery route. Ma
Jan 33 min read


"I want to be seen as a 900 year old bog witch."
Can we talk about a current turn of phrase? That seems to be accompanying the whole "How old do I look" meme on TikTok. (It's the one in the subject line, btw) [So witchy, I even have professional headshots for my tarot reading business. 2023, Elise Kutt for Mod Bettie Portraits, HMU Candace Lefke] More Auntie Lore time! When I was 16, so this would have been around 1998, I started to take an Arabic dance class (you know, "belly dancing") with my mom, and my teacher was like
Jan 14 min read


The effects of catnip.
Hamish the Haggis fully experiences the nip, while Milosh can hear colors.
Dec 31, 20251 min read


Re: The "Analog Bag" Trend aka "how to quit social media."
TW: addiction, recovery. The trigger warning goes for the whole post, not just this meme, btw. People are on TikTok loading up tote bags with offline activities to curb their doom scrolling. I'm watching a compilation video on YouTube right now, where someone commented that they remind them of the "Kid Kits" from the Baby-Sitters Club series, but for grown-ups, which is pretty hilarious to Elder Millennial me. On that note, puff painting and bedazzling cotton totes from Micha
Dec 28, 20259 min read


End of the year, everyone's getting retrospective.
Whew. Some of the earlier stuff, I'm like "that was just THIS year? The one we're still in??" Considering the state of the world at the end of 2024, we all knew we were in for a doozy with this one. We also knew 2025 was a 9 year (2+0+2+5=9) with the energy of completion, and that it would be followed by 2026 (2+0+2+6=10 1+0=1) with the energy of new beginnings, so. I went into it hanging onto my butt, as Samuel L. Jackson says in Jurassic Park. Within the first 5 months of t
Dec 26, 20252 min read


I am the ROODEST Mumma EVAR!
I allowed my brother and his wife and in-laws to enter the house. It's all my fault. He was especially mad that as he sat on my bed glaring, there was all kinds of boxes and crinkly paper he missed out on. I ruined Crimus. I am the Grinchiest Mumma. He was very fierce to my hand this morning, he's still mad. The rest of us had a lovely Christmas Eve, thank you.
Dec 25, 20251 min read


IT'S CRIMUS!
As far as my youngest, floofiest son is concerned, "Crimus" is the funny, sparkly not tree we hang toys on that he can't play with but that he can sleep under on a soft blankie. His name is Milosh, by the way. This is the second post he's been in, and I don't think I've properly introduced him yet... My Christmas Spirit has been a bit lacking this year, for obvious reasons. We usually try to catch at least one holiday concert or show, that didn't happen this year. I haven't r
Dec 23, 20252 min read


There's been an update to my recipe blog!
I am aware that blog is on hiatus, but my mom keeps bringing home bagels that I can eat, and cream cheese that I can't. Not an issue with an Everything bagel, I always have the fixins for hummus around, but she brought home brown sugar cinnamon, and blueberry... I've never been a huge fan of the brownie hummus the way most people make it, but I started throwing ingredients in my food processor, and... ended up replicating the flavor of Aldi's Jaffa Cakes exactly. Not what I
Dec 22, 20251 min read


Flashback Friday 📸
At the pre-op appointment on Tuesday, my nurse navigator tried to help me work out a plan to sleep away from the cats for two weeks. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that the last time I was cut open for medical purposes, it was at 9 in the morning, and by 5pm I had become the Mumma of a micro-runt from a polyesterous litter (like internet sensation Baby Corn). And that I immediately started pottying him with the incision hand. I could have worn gloves. That occurred to me
Dec 12, 20251 min read


A reflection on anesthesia's continuing evolving view on cannabis' interactions, as a decade-long MMJ patient & multiple surgery-haver.
What the title says. My first encounter with major surgery and thus with general anesthesia as an adult was with a double laminectomy (at T10-11 & L5-S1) in June of 2021. At that Surgical Optimization pre-op, I was told to stop using THC products of any kind two weeks prior to surgery. I went back in for some scar damage work on the L5-S1 site in October 2022, and the THC requirements before surgery were the same. When I had to go back in again in March of 2023, however, a ne
Dec 10, 20251 min read
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