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Okay Patriarchy, reign in your horses.
This video just made my blood boil: Does she not look like every single one of your grandma's friend's when you were in grade school? I don't care when you were in grade school or where, I'm betting, if you're of anglo-saxon descent or roll with those who are, you've known so many women in their 50's who look just like her. And they're some of the best ladies in your life, you know it. And she's being bullied for being "trans." Or a "lesbian." First of all, I got hit with tha
May 234 min read


Auntie American 🇺🇸
CW: gun violence, political violence. I know it's all I seem to write about nowadays, but I'm fucking pissed that a disabled woman is considered more of a threat to the American Way of Life for coordinating the re-distribution of needed community resources than a radicalized incel with a high-powered firearm. I refuse to believe that hatred and gun violence is more American than community organization. Logically, I know it's true, but I also know it's wrong. This is not how i
Apr 232 min read


Developing a femme wardrobe, Auntie-style.
That semi-annual clothing swap that has me on a few US government watchlists for being "anti-American" was three days ago now, and I've been working on laundry and stain treating and mending and tailoring since. So, I've been thinking about my wardrobe a lot, and thought I'd share how I built mine for style and function, since it is a learned skill. I learned the ropes from working the cool art museum job with a bunch of fashionistas at the same time that Pinterest debuted. A
Apr 228 min read


Why I'm on a few government watchlists.
Me: "Better political analysts than I are talking about the current problems, I'd rather focus my blog on workable personal solutions." The Universe: "Girl, it is 2026, and you're an American. Please." Go ahead. Considering that list, guess why I would be on an FBI watchlist or three? If you've read my About page, you'd probably point to my history as a 2016 Water Protector aka community organizer around water rights. That's definitely how I originally got myself on a few lis
Apr 103 min read


Wellness is not political.
This isn't a political blog. Why? Because this is my blog, and I believe that our current political system is old, dying energy, and I would rather put my attention and energy towards the new, healthy system I want to see put in place when the old system finally gives up the ghost. It's not that I don't follow the politics, and vote/act accordingly, it's just that looking beyond the politics is my wheelhouse, and I'll leave the political commentary to the people who are actua
Apr 73 min read


Reclaiming beauty standards.
This one's for my AFAB Millennials. And it has content warnings of pedophilia, human trafficking, torture, and eating disorders. The biggest conversation everywhere but on US media as I write this is The Epstein Files, particularly the early 2026 "info dump" that made it brutally obvious that Jeffrey Epstein, likely the literal Antichrist, known pedophile (among other things), controlled pop culture for girls and women for 30+ years. A lot of women are coming to terms with ho
Apr 36 min read


Reflections on personal decolonization, 10 years in.
I was introduced to the concept of decolonization in 2016, when I joined the #noDAPL movement for indigenous water rights. I was already pretty deep into both third wave feminism and early body positivity, so decolonization seemed like the logical next step - intersectional feminism identified the problem as a twisted patriarchal system fed by capitalism and religion as social control, decolonization proposed a perfectly do-able solution of personal accountability in returnin
Mar 2612 min read


The results of eating a McDonalds Quarter Pounder Meal after a year of eating on a calorie deficit, and I might as well talk about why "diets don't work" while I'm at it.
TW: diets and diet culture, including describing extreme dieting techniques of the 80's and 90's. I've been waking up really late recently, daylight savings time is not helping this, and I had an 11:30am appointment yesterday. A normal person would have plenty of time to pull themselves together, but I slept until nearly 10am, and it takes my stomach a couple more hours to wake up than the rest of my body, so I went to that appointment on water, coffee, and collagen powder. A
Mar 116 min read
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TW: American Disability & Medicaid systems, medical neglect, discussions of surgery/post-op injury, and genocide. You know how I was denied Medicaid for 2026 because of a perfect storm of events that most people would simply write off as personal laziness? Well, I'm writing this blog post to kill some time as I'm on hold with my County DHS to speak to someone about how to get the denial overturned. First of all, I had to hang up and call back to start on the automated menu fr
Feb 235 min read


God Bless America.
And I mean that in the very southern "bless your heart" way. TW: American Disability & Medicaid systems, post-op recovery, chronic illness including seasonal migraines, neurodivergence, mental stress, discussion of distress, danger, and genocide. I just got denied Medicaid for 2026. Why? I didn't return the re-application form. Why wouldn't I do that promptly, it's not hard to return a form, right? I had a total hip joint replacement on January 5. I spent most of the month of
Feb 212 min read


A Fool's Spring Closet Try-On!
TW: weight gain and loss, plus clothing sizing, fatphobia, body dysmorphia. I took the nice weather and having some energy yesterday to try on some of the things in my closet that I haven't put on in awhile, to see if it even still fits. And the most surprising pieces do and don't fit! A little storytime about my size and clothing sizes over the years - at 18 years old, in 2000, I was a perfect Lane Bryant size 18. I could go into Lane Bryant and put anything in a size 18 on
Feb 194 min read


A little bit of this, a little bit of that...
I announce that I'm joining a hair growth challenge, and two days later my hair starts falling out. Y'all think you're so slick? Hope you enjoy being bald, I sent that back right away, and haven't lost a hair since. I can't even grow my own hair in peace, for fuck's sake. Hey WitchTok, take note - this is the life you're choosing. Witch Wars are part of it, whether you want to get into it or not. I sure don't, but here we are. Make sure you're ready for the heat, everyone's a
Feb 82 min read


“How can I amplify your voice?”
Do you really want to help your disabled friend, your Hispanic friend, your otherwise BIPOC friend, your Palestinian friend, your Jewish friend, your neurodivergent friend, your queer friend, your unhoused friend… That’s the question. That is what you ask them. And it’ll usually be something like sharing their mutual aid requests. I have never once had a successful online fundraiser, because I share the link everywhere I can possibly promote it, and then it dies. No shares me
Jan 132 min read


When you're significantly disabled, and your country doesn't give a single shit.
TW: American SSI Disability & Medicaid systems, discussion of mental health & stress, genocide & eugenics. Today is one week post-op. I was on the table exactly seven days ago right now. Today, I also was notified by US SSI Disability that my request to review my hearing from April 2025 has been denied. Which means I'm starting the application process over from scratch, for the third time in six years. Why was I denied last year? Because the "employment expert" at the hearing
Jan 122 min read
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