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When I tell people to prepare for the inevitable negative thing on the horizon, I usually get a lot of ostriches promptly and firmly planting their heads in the sand. It is IMPOSSIBLE for them to prepare for a negative thing. It is TOO MUCH. This video came up on my feed immediately after a tarot reader with a message about living wills the other day. It's been a little over two weeks now since I was discharged from the ER with heavily bleeding uterine fibroids and a very str

I celebrated turning 44 by spending six hours alone in the ER, getting diagnosed with two uterine fibroids! Weekday birthdays, am I right? My grandma: "only two? I had five when I had my hysterectomy." One's posterior and a little under 3 centimeters, so about the size of a grape, and the other is anterior and a little under 4 centimeters, so about the size of a bon bon. I also have a simple cyst in my left ovary, also grape-sized. Leave it to me to turn my unused uterus into

And as of the end of May 2026, 8 months nearly to the day from the Big Chop, I'm officially back to the length I was able to achieve and maintain during Natural Hair Movement v.1 in the 2010's. It's not a surprise why it's the length I could maintain, particularly when I mostly wore my hair down in wash-and-go's... this is about the point where ends meet clothing fabric, and I lose all retention thanks to friction. My ends are far thicker and more even this time around. I hav

This is one of those points that I very clearly remember my mother reaching about 15-20 years ago. She flew to San Francisco, and splurged on a full Bare Minerals kit before finally declaring herself makeup-free, mostly because she had too hard of a time finding brands that didn't irritate her eyes and skin, but it was also too hard to find makeup that sat well on maturing skin. I'm learning now that it's not just "fine lines" she was talking about - perimenopausal hormone ch

The first part of the blog post I wrote this morning was a lot of me thinking out loud about how to practically prepare for a drought potentially severe enough to cause water rations. Yes, like I'm sure most everyone else my original thought was how to stockpile water, but that's not practical at all... not only would you need the collection and storage equipment (I don't have the space for a water tower, I measured), but water goes stagnant. The question to ask is, "how do I

This video just made my blood boil: Does she not look like every single one of your grandma's friend's when you were in grade school? I don't care when you were in grade school or where, I'm betting, if you're of anglo-saxon descent or roll with those who are, you've known so many women in their 50's who look just like her. And they're some of the best ladies in your life, you know it. And she's being bullied for being "trans." Or a "lesbian." First of all, I got hit with tha

I'm from the Midwest, and both of my grandfathers are military veterans - one in WWII, one in the Korean War - so "Dopp Kit" is one of those traditions and terminologies that got persistently handed down in my family, much like calling chipped dry beef in cream sauce served over toast "shit on a shingle." But I digress. A Dopp Kit is a particular design of men's toiletry bags used for travel. Nowadays, there are many travel kits out there, and the kind that fold open and hang

While I'm over here reminiscing on Millennial Summers of Yore, remember when Evian launched the mist bottle of Evian water? That's it, it's just Evian in an aluminum mist bottle. And it was THE beach and gym bag item of the summer the year it was launched, probably somewhere in the 2017-2018 years. Y'all, they sell that stuff for $3 an ounce. It's... water. Mineral water, yes, I have sea salt in my cabinet, too. Here's how the trail of innovation happened... I bought a contin

Beyond that being objectively wrong, and my having a very autistic understanding of the concepts of truth and justice... Everyone's always pointed to my Libra stellium between my 2nd and 3rd houses, with Jupiter in the 3rd house party but with one toe over the line at the 1st degree of Scorpio, 20 degrees away from my moon in the 4th house, not to mention the Leo Ascending, and Sun and Mercury in Gemini in my 10th house, to explain why I am what/who I am. Communication and co

Fun Auntie Fact: I was born overlooking the opening ceremonies of what at the time was my country's largest volunteer-run arts festival. It's sadly defunct starting this year, but it used to kick off festivals celebrating all of the ethnic and creative enclaves of the city, from a Pow Wow the very next weekend, straight through to Kasimir Pulaski Days at the beginning of October. Another Fun Auntie Fact: I started my career as a professional tarot card reader in a tent at reg

I live in an area in America that was settled very heavily by immigrants, and is still being settled very heavily because the area is very religious, so we have a prominent refugee resettlement ministry in the area. This is how I can live in a C-tier northern Midwestern city and have access to grocery stores catering to just about any culture. I, myself, was generally raised in the white, blue-collar enclave of all of this, which meant I grew up in the thick of the European A

Original meme by moi, who is old enough to remember when Netflix listed The Babadook in the Pride section in 2017, and the meme became "The B in LGBT is for Babadook," which then led to accusations of bi erasure... and I also remember the "Pride Month Demon" meme of 2021, and seem to have been the only person to have put 2 & 2 together. I had my friend put it on a t-shirt for me, and that is how you will know me at Pride. My birthday is June 4! That's just one month and one d

CW: many specific mental health issues, neurodivergence, chronic illness. Auntie Lore time! You already know I'm late diagnosed AuDHD with all the things that go along with multiple neurodivergence, like rejection sensitive dysphoria, dyscalculia, internal hyperactivity, hyperlexia, hyperverbalism, hyperfixation, dyspraxia, fissure and synesthesia, chronic insomnia, weak digestion, joint hypermobility... What does this mean, practically? Internal hyperactivity + the constant

CW: gun violence, political violence. I know it's all I seem to write about nowadays, but I'm fucking pissed that a disabled woman is considered more of a threat to the American Way of Life for coordinating the re-distribution of needed community resources than a radicalized incel with a high-powered firearm. I refuse to believe that hatred and gun violence is more American than community organization. Logically, I know it's true, but I also know it's wrong. This is not how i

That semi-annual clothing swap that has me on a few US government watchlists for being "anti-American" was three days ago now, and I've been working on laundry and stain treating and mending and tailoring since. So, I've been thinking about my wardrobe a lot, and thought I'd share how I built mine for style and function, since it is a learned skill. I learned the ropes from working the cool art museum job with a bunch of fashionistas at the same time that Pinterest debuted. A

Me: "Better political analysts than I are talking about the current problems, I'd rather focus my blog on workable personal solutions." The Universe: "Girl, it is 2026, and you're an American. Please." Go ahead. Considering that list, guess why I would be on an FBI watchlist or three? If you've read my About page, you'd probably point to my history as a 2016 Water Protector aka community organizer around water rights. That's definitely how I originally got myself on a few lis

This isn't a political blog. Why? Because this is my blog, and I believe that our current political system is old, dying energy, and I would rather put my attention and energy towards the new, healthy system I want to see put in place when the old system finally gives up the ghost. It's not that I don't follow the politics, and vote/act accordingly, it's just that looking beyond the politics is my wheelhouse, and I'll leave the political commentary to the people who are actua

This one's for my AFAB Millennials. And it has content warnings of pedophilia, human trafficking, torture, and eating disorders. The biggest conversation everywhere but on US media as I write this is The Epstein Files, particularly the early 2026 "info dump" that made it brutally obvious that Jeffrey Epstein, likely the literal Antichrist, known pedophile (among other things), controlled pop culture for girls and women for 30+ years. A lot of women are coming to terms with ho

I was introduced to the concept of decolonization in 2016, when I joined the #noDAPL movement for indigenous water rights. I was already pretty deep into both third wave feminism and early body positivity, so decolonization seemed like the logical next step - intersectional feminism identified the problem as a twisted patriarchal system fed by capitalism and religion as social control, decolonization proposed a perfectly do-able solution of personal accountability in returnin

If recent forays into my genealogy have taught me anything, it's that I'm descended from multiple continents worth of ancient royal lines, no matter which branch of the family tree you shake, both sides. Me? I'm a disabled Michigander with no money to my name. I have decided that location, time period, and circumstances be damned, I'm just as much of an ancient queen as my ancestresses, and I'm going to act like it. See, I studied archaeology in college, I know what the quali